I started the New Year and my mood changed completely. I was in a job that was beneath me and I felt that certain people in the business were trying to keep me down rather than embrace my abilities, which was incredibly frustrating. I found myself doing great pieces of work and getting in trouble for it, which intern made me feel even more frustrated, angry and demoralised. I started coming into work expecting a bad day, and when it happened this fed my negativity. On top of this I have always been someone who lived in the future rather than enjoying the moment. I hated my job so lived for the weekend. Only doing nice things on Friday nights and Saturday. I was putting pressure on myself based on the lives, jobs and achievements of my friends and felt like I was behind where I should be. I felt people were locking down on me, as if I was failing somehow. A friend of mine at work recommended that I go to see his Life Coach, John Mill. I did, for fourteen weeks, and I can honestly say that he changed my life! Remarkably quickly it was as if John had rewired my brain. I thought it was impossible to change the way I viewed the world, but it was as if he offered me a different narrative and that was all I needed. Instead of standing and looking at the painting from there, stand over here. Now it makes sense. I feel that he fundamentally helped me in probably the first 6 sessions, but I wanted to keep attending to soak up as much knowledge as I possibly could from this genius. Human need psychology, and a YouTube video on living in the moment were probably the two most important bits of information my new Life Coach gave me. These two things more than anything else changed my perspective on my job, my life. It changed everything! For the first time since I was a child I was enjoying every day, living every day, rather than two days out of every seven. Even my driving changed to the amazement of my sister-in-law on one trip to the local shops. I was so relaxed and smooth she couldn’t believe it was me. My positive outlook on life even started to attract colleagues at work, who I started to help using my lessons from John, which gave me an incredible sense of significance. I started Transcendental Meditation and started to look into a possible career in Life Coaching myself! I was even able to look back on the situation that sent me to John in the first place as a blessing, meant to happen. Life really was happening for me! I owe John an incredible amount. He has even stayed in my life after I stopped paying him and has become my mentor, life long life coach, as I try to transition and follow in his footsteps. I can’t thank, or recommend him highly enough. Thank you John. K.D. Chelsea
John helps you to believe in yourself and help you stay focused on your goals, with motivation and strategies on how to succeed.
John has taught me how to look at myself and how others around me may or may not see me but that it doesn't matter only that I'm important and that I need to take care of my needs and look after my well-being, John has never given up on me when others have or when others doubted me, he saw the light within me where others couldn't, and since then I have noticed my own family that didn't think I could ever achieve what I have so far, are in absolutely amazement at how far I have come and what a transformation I have made with Johns coaching. In total I have lost seven stone to date and I have another four and a half to go. My daughter was very scared she was going to lose me due to my obesity but she is now very proud of me as she knows how difficult life has been for me and how much I struggled with things. John teaches you to have self-esteem and boosts your confidence, morale and has shown me ways of dealing with the thing that used to consume me, it took over my life and was swallowing me whole but John helped me to understand and show me there is light at the end of the tunnel but that determination and hard work and encouragement is key into never giving up, that I am to keep fighting even when times are hard, John has even had some visual effects in helping me see things differently and how to overcome my obsessions with food and how I see food, Food was a massive part of my life, John explained to me that it was my emotional comfort it never let me down except when I would look in the mirror at myself and realise what I had done, but I couldn't stop until I met John. Since meeting John I have started enjoying to exercise and seen the beauty in the world around me, I have not eaten a Mac Donald's in 8 months when I used to eat it most weeks on occasions and I will never eat another one ever again, I now eat healthy and enjoy it, I actually can't stand grease any more so have made healthier choices. I’ve noticed as well I don't have to pick something fattening now when I'm out for a meal that I have the will power and strength to pick the better choice and even have no pudding. John has made me achieve amazing results, I would never have come this far in my journey without John believing in me and wanting to help me to turn my life around, as I was at a very dangerous point in my life but now thanks to John I have a very good chance of a longer happier life and I'm able to do things that I couldn't do before and that is a good feeling especially with the continuation of John's help and coaching strategies. John has so much knowledge and many talents, sometimes I've wandered off onto other subjects, John always listens and watches how I speak and react which helps him to find the best way in showing me that there are other ways to see or deal with things and that you are not trapped in this viscous circle. He never judges and is professional at all times and his practice is a space to open up and really be yourself when sometimes you hide yourself from others. He inspires me to want to help others to show them we are not alone but that we are on a journey and we have the power to redirect our path and that we can make new opportunities. N.H. Caterham
It wasn’t my decision to be a single mum, but I woke up one March morning and that’s what I had become!’
Part of a poem I wrote when my son was a baby. I was devastated at the time, but I put everything into looking after him alone to help him to grow into a healthy, happy child. Despite exhaustion from working and disturbed nights when he was younger plus supporting him through the stages of life, I tried to be both Mum and Dad….taught him to swim and ride a bike etc and taught him manners. He didn’t consume a fizzy drink until he was 10 yrs old, I didn’t force chips and burgers into him, but however, I still ended up with an overweight child. So unfair! He just loved food. I am from the generation where we were told to clear our plate and I never needed to ask my son to do that! I am a health professional and felt terrible that my son was bigger than he should be. I was in denial for a while as he grew taller and tried to ignore it was happening. He got to the teens and he got a bit lazy, computer games meant less exercise. I felt it was my fault and struggled with trying to help him eat less, walk more etc…but failed miserably. I lost myself along the way too, I was just ‘mum’ as I had put my own life on hold for him. I hadn’t his father to discuss it with and decided I would need to weigh him and face it. I was horrified to see what he weighed, too much for him at 14 yrs old. I didn’t know if they did hypnotherapy for children, but decided to have a look and there I found John’s website and he saw people in my home town! I knew I couldn’t afford it, but I had to do it. My son was really excited and looked forward to meeting him. I found it so emotional, I felt guilty and had to hold back tears at first, but John was wonderful. So kind too and I just felt that I was sharing the load with someone who didn’t blame me like I did myself. My son liked him too and we booked the first 6 sessions. My son has teenage hormones that make him grumpy at times, but John was so great with him and made him laugh. I felt so supported and even though I wasn’t his client, my son was, I felt that he cared about me as well and it was a relief to meet with him each week. My son enjoyed the hypnosis too and with his creative imagination, it was a positive experience for him. John is a realistic human being and his relaxed, calm manner along with good humour, meant that my son had a great male role model that he could chat to, moan to and he lost weight too!! The male members of my family are not local so this was an added bonus. It is not the end of the road yet, but John has helped give me the strength to keep going and my son seems keen to lose more weight himself! So a big, big heartfelt thanks to you John, I am so pleased we met you..I think I have even found myself along the way and I am not just ‘mum’ anymore… I am me..! :-) (So sorry to go on so long, I can talk for England!!!!) M.S. Sutton
Dear John, I am back! I am shocked! I am Thankfull! Well i felt the flight was going to be ok and it was better than expected.
I watched the video on the way out as he was stuck on plane 1.5 hours because the stand that pushed the plane off broke. The old me would have been crying,sweating,rocking in my chair having a panic attack,being on lots of drugs and wine! I watched the video and was relaxed, i watched the take off and my belt waa undone,i went too loo! This is a amazing for me!I think i enjoyed it! Flight on way home i couldnt get signal to listen or watch my video sonthat threw me a bit and i felt bit worried but after 20 mins i did some slow breathing and told myself to stop being silly then i was fine, I was not worried about the flight i think just more anxious about the fact i had hour left and i just wanted to be home and maybe felt different as nothing to think about on way back rather than way there. I can not thank you enough, I couldnt have dealt with a flight let alone a baby and flight together without finding you. After every session i feel so much happier and not just about flying, feel like I am enjoying life more with some time away from a busy day to day life. K.L. Sutton
Dear John, the end of the course (weight management hypnosis group). Just wanted to thank you so very much for the course.
It has meant a great deal to me, I feel so lucky I found your course. I was in Sutton visiting a coffee shop with my *******. She is slim and she was ordering a cake and chocolate bar with her coffee and I was upset and annoyed I couldn't have it too, I turned and as I did I saw your poster on the notice board. I read it but didn't think too much. We satdown, she on the sofa - I in a bucket seat with arms. Needless to say I couldn't fit, we swapped seats. Reaffirmed in my mind why I didn't need cake. I returned to the notice board while she ate chocolate to grab your number. I knew that I needed to I was desperate. We had only stopped for a coffee and I was so tired, full of pain from walking around the shops with her. I masqueraded this desperate need to get off my legs as "Would you fancy a coffee?" It would have been embarrassing to say "please can we sit down I'm so heavy I can't stand any longer." In a country where we are the fattest in the whole of Europe and getting fatter your service is much needed. I had been doing so much searching around prior to meeting you and as you must know there is so much therapy available in the self help industry but at a substantial cost. One of the major differences with you is you are allowing people something affordable and I just wanted to say thankyou. For me, being overweight is about feeling out of control, worried and frightened about life, the world, the people in it. Eating gave peace, comfort, escapism but if your sanctuary makes you ill and overweight it begs the question, how much of a sanctuary is it? Your course has taught me that overeating and being fat is no protection against the world. Life will still 'happen' fat or thin. Anyway at the risk of this turning into a novel I will close now, but just to say I'm sure you know, but what you do and say changes lives and helps people - it has me - I was at the end of my road, I didn't know what I was going to do then I found this course and life began to get better. It hasn't just helped me lose weight, it's given me a little bit of my confidence back, the courage to speak out, use my voice again and interact with others again. I had become used to being invisible, just the lonely little (big) figure in the background. At your group I can feel like myself again and have time and space to be me. Your course has been far more emotional and powerful than I could ever have expected it to be. Please accept a (virtual) hug from me in gratitude. For each session I grow a little in confidence and belief in my own personal power, for this gift I can never say thankyou enough. S.S. Sutton
When I researched help through hypnotherapy I thought I would find someone quite cliched and hard to open up to and to be quite honest I didn't expect the process to help.
However when I met John, his down to earth and honest approach was appreciated. He makes you feel like you and your issues are every bit as valid to him as they are to you. I have come a long way since meeting John and his technique and advice will stay with me always. L.B. North Cheam
When I came to see John, I didn’t really know what happened to me. I went from being adventurous, happy and outgoing to panicky, anxious and withdrawn.
I could barely leave my road. Within 6 weeks John has already helped me completely turn my life around. I am now basically back to how I used to be and have so much more confidence in the future and present. Finding John was truly fate. A.K. Sutton
The pain is better and test results for 2 tests came back with nothing abnormal. What more can I say! C.C. Cheam
We both can't believe how much you've done for (client name) in only 2 sessions, how can he have a sleep disorder for 15 years and you fix it so quickly, you're amazing John. I'm so grateful, it has made us closer and stronger than ever before, (client name) says it's like a dream come true, he just can't believe it. He doesn't even use Kalms anymore, just the cd when he needs it. Thankyou again John, I'm truly grateful T.P. Sutton
When I first came to see John in 2011 I was in a very bad place. John has helped me work through lots of issues from weight loss, bereavement, depression and lots of things in between. I can honestly say I look at life very differently now. I put this down to John and the support and guidance he has given me during our sessions. Many Thanks S.C. Sutton
After giving up on counselling after many years, I made a conscious decision that I never wanted to be counselled again.
Eighteen months later and after a chance meeting with John I decide to give counselling one more try and my faith in counselling was restored. That was nine months ago and I am in a better place now thanks to him. It takes a special kind of person to be a counsellor and that's why John is so good at what he does. He cares about his clients, it's not just an occupation to him and that's the difference to being a good counsellor and a mediocre one. Thankyou. Y.B. Sutton
I started on my journey to take myself apart and rebuild myself step by step with John’s help using counselling and hypnosis. It's like reprogramming your mind so you can start living your life, I never look back it's been great making changes in my life, it's helped me with so much. I am motivated and confident, relaxed and happy, more positive and it's helped to relieve my depression. I learnt to understand comfort eating and what triggers it and how to control it and my sleep pattern is now excellent. John is a very dedicated professional and he is very passionate about his work. John is friendly and a very understanding therapist. I feel very comfortable and relaxed when working out my issues with John. I am amazed with the results we have achieved. I have learnt a great deal about myself and all my friends have noticed a difference in me. I have started to enjoy life... I would highly recommend John Mill. Thank You John. E.G. Carshalton
Having worried about what to expect when I first went to see John, it was a welcome pleasure to be immediately put at ease.
Before me was a professional and hospitable man who assured me that we could get rid of my chocolate addiction together. Now, this was something I didn’t entirely believe; how anyone could rid me of what seemed to be a habit of a lifetime was beyond me and so it was a surprise when, just sessions later, I found myself walking past chocolate and having neither an urge to pick or eat it. I felt a pang of triumph, and knew that my sessions with John had been a success. Moreover, I realised that I wouldn’t have been able to achieve this without him; it goes without saying that he has changed my life for the better and I can say with the utmost confidence that I would return to him in the future knowing that he would fruitfully help me with any problems which needed tackling. N.K. Sutton
I am an asthmatic, have smoked through two pregnancies, been in hospital four times on an oxygen mask along with heavy doses of steroids, woke up through the night needing my asthma pump, walked around smelling awful, finding the money for cigarettes even if bills were waiting to be paid. The realisation of hearing that I had spent over £40,000 on my habit didn’t put me off and I didn’t even listen when my children and the doctor asked me to stop. I always hated the fact that I smoked, I hated the way the car smelt, my house smelt, bed clothes – everything smelt, yet I carried on and made myself believe I couldn’t stop, I wasn’t strong enough to quit. I do not know what happened, but in January I again decided to try and quit, but I found myself having only a few one day but lots the next, I spoke out loud about my desire to quit and I knew that financially, smoking was not a necessary expense in our household budget, there simply was no money to pay for them. I then became pregnant with my third child and the midwife referred me to a no smoking midwife, who worked with me for 6 weeks, giving me support and advice, checked my carbon monoxide levels and saliva, so quitting was the only option as I couldn’t escape.........but I still carried on for the first three weeks of seeing her, I timed cigarettes, so no evidence would be in the carbon monoxide reading and happily took all the paperwork to read and promised to call her if I was struggling. I felt awful, I knew that smoking whilst pregnant was, in my eyes the worst thing you ever do, this little person inside of me didn’t want to smoke, they deserved a better start in life, but I couldn’t stop for longer than a day. One day I read the leaflets the midwife gave me and I read that medical research has shown that there is a link with children who have ADHD and mothers who smoke whilst pregnant. My eldest has ADHD and other syndromes. That was my light bulb moment, reading that sentence changed my life and I knew that I couldn’t do this on my own, I did need extra support and guidance. I contacted John who was able help me, I was very nervous about seeing him and being hypnotised, I was worried it wouldn’t work and that I was incurable smoker. He was very warm and welcoming and clearly told me what he would do. We spoke at length about my habit and I really had to think about why I was doing it and what triggers it. I was embarrassed to admit that I couldn’t even answer the phone unless I had a cigarette in my hand. He got me to relax and put me under, whilst calmly speaking to me. I have absolutely no idea what was said to me but I came out of the session feeling very positive and determined never to smoke again. John was very positive throughout the session and made me feel comfortable. That was 2 months ago and I have not had one cigarette since. I have had a few challenging days where I struggled, but I got through them, the old me would have nipped to the shop to buy a packet so I could have “Just one cigarette” to get me through the moment. I am so glad I contacted John and he has been very helpful and supportive, I know that I can contact him at any time if I feel myself slipping backwards. L.S. Cheam
I have been attending hypnotherapy sessions for weight loss with John Mill for a good couple of months now.
My experiences have been life changing. When we began I had very little confidence and a low self esteem. I was afraid to step on scales in fear of the numbers that I would see. I was intrigued about hypnotherapy and apprehensive at the same time. I was ashamed at what I’d allowed myself to become and above all disappointed that I hadn’t been successful in conventional dieting. John enabled me to work through all of my mixed emotions from day one. I stood on the scales in my first session and from that day I have not looked back. I have found hypnotherapy to be one of the most positive experiences I have had in life. It has been relaxing and powerful at the same time. Without consciously realizing it I was putting into practice all of the tips surrounding food habits that John was recommending. He has enabled me to lose weight without feeling that I am on a strict diet, he has restored my confidence and taught me how to banish my negative thoughts I have suffered surrounding exercise. In achieving this I have been motivated to exercise daily which has been a tremendous boost to my health and of course weight loss. Throughout this John has never judged me he has been supportive and has reminded me of the power of positive thought. I am excited to continue my journey to reach the size I want to be and for once I really feel that I will achieve it. I would gladly share more of my experiences with anyone considering hypnotherapy with John Mill. N.M. Cheam
I was suffering from extreme anxiety and decided to try hypnotherapy as a last resort as I was desperate not to go down the prescription drug route.
My initial scepticism surrounding hypnotherapy soon disappeared. After just one first session with John I felt calmer and better equipped to deal with what was a tough period in my life. As the sessions continued, so too did my ability to keep the anxiety in check and John became a mentor and trusted confident whose methods were both professional and, most importantly, worked. I am safe in the knowledge that, should the need arise, John will be on hand to ensure my new found freedom from anxiety continues. R.R. Sutton
He was always calm, kind and sensitive and went to great lengths to guide me through the process of trying to overcome my phobia. He had a knack of knowing exactly how I was feeling, and I would recommend him to anyone needing help with a phobia or worrying problem. S.L. Sutton
I am smoke free now and thoroughly enjoy being smoke free. My determination is greater now than ever as my Aunt lost her battle against Cancer, after years and years of smoking, on Sunday the 5th Sept 2010. A very HUGE thank you John. God bless you. S.M. Sutton
Hi John, Hope you are well, I just wanted to say a massive thank you not only for helping me to stop smoking but my God for giving me the most relaxing few days of my life!!!
I was so chilled I didn't recognise myself last week after the session. I had the weirdest dreams that night but slept like never before it was amazing. I feel totally free from smoking, now and again I get a bit agitated and cross that I have stopped for some odd reason but it has been pretty easy so I actually believe you DO have a magic wand!! I almost want to start again so I can come back for the session!!! Thank you sooo much for helping to free me because that is how I feel.....at the moment! Thank you thank you thank you V.S. Sutton
Hello John, As promised, thought I'd drop you a line to let you know how things have gone. Well the headline news is that I've not smoked at all.
Hard work yes, uncomfortable yes, but at risk of failing, not really. My attitude towards the cravings is one of intrigue, almost as though I'm a third person watch this battle of the mind run its course - It’s strangely fascinating. Thanks, E.K. Sutton
Dear John, I would like to thank you for the support and help you have given me. I walked out beaming and still am!! (Got into car and the song on the radio was ‘Bruno Mars - Just the Way You Are’ ) Couldn't' have planned it if I tried. I promise no one is going to burst my bubble again - after a very long journey I feel I have finally been re united with ME thanks to you and my pals.
(Got into car and the song on the radio was ‘Bruno Mars - Just the Way You Are’ ) Couldn't' have planned it if I tried. I promise no one is going to burst my bubble again - after a very long journey I feel I have finally been re united with ME thanks to you and my pals. I wrote the members of our weight group a poem each tailored for them and I decided I would write you one for fun as well. Enjoy ~ You are fixer, fix people that's what you do. We came into you broken an blue, You listened we spoke then we did some listening too, We thought it would be all tick-tock, tick-tock but that wasn't true!! You fixed us up mate and made us better, you are a fixer, fix people that's what you do. You gave us the tools to continue the work, You gave us back, full of belief & self worth, We looked deep within and began to shed our old ways, With it shone the beauty and the light we so very craved. You fixed us mate - that much is true, For which we are all eternally grateful to you. You are fixer, fix people that's what you do. E.P. Sutton
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